The following is a self-reflection I had this week after a conversation with my coach. Though I speak about ‘they’, and ‘us’, I’m really just talking about myself, and my own process of embracing my own shadows, as I journey into the intelligence of my own heart.
Many people hide behind a pseudo heart-centered spirituality, proclaiming to live in the ‘Kingdom of the Heart’, and preaching all about compassion, love, and peace. They live inside a Disney-like fantasy world where all is magic, where there’s no negative feelings, no shame, no anger, no regret, where there’s no confrontation, where there’s not even the need to admit your mistakes because ‘all is good’, or ‘all is unfolding in divine time’, or simply, ‘Jesus already paid for my sins at the cross’.
They om, they chant, they go to healing circles, they sit in the front row of their meditation class. They go to yoga, reiki, they sing their hearts out at choir, and they try every new spiritual diet or fad. They look at you and even tell you…. “see how heart centered and spiritual I am!”
They send you their love, they send you their compassion, they even tell you that you’re loved. Some brave ones, even proclaim to love you. They pride themselves as superior, more evolved because they are following their heart, or because they are speaking from their hearts.
Even though their hearts crave the very basics of human connection, they avoid it at all cost by bypassing into their little safe spiritual worlds created by the prison of their own minds.
And I tell you, they fail to understand the very basic principles of heart-based living, and human connection: being real, present, vulnerable, and authentic.
I used to be one of these people. To a certain extent, I still am. The bigger difference these days is that I’m part of a community of friends whose favorite way to love me is by pointing to me those blind spots, those areas where I’m not in integrity, where I’m not being authentic, and real as I could be. They challenge me to be a better and more awake version of me.
Living from the Heart is not for everybody. It takes balls, courage, and determination. It takes saying what you’re most afraid of saying, facing what you’re most afraid of facing, and being who you’re most scared to be. It takes leaving the comfortable and predictable future you’re heading for and entering into a sea of uncertainty, vulnerability, and chaos. And it is in that sea, and after many strokes of trial and error, where you eventually begin to swim in peace… the Peace of your Heart, not of your mind, for your mind will never truly bring you peace.
We’re not meant to travel the journey into the heart on our own. We need each other. Because what your mind cannot see, your true heart, and your friends’ true hearts will see.
From my heart to yours.