We all have them. I have my “7 Steps to Soulmate Love”. Tony Robbins has his “5 Steps to Take Control of your Life”. Oprah, her “3 Steps to Finding your Calling”. These step-by-step systems are nothing but maps taking us towards whatever it is we want, hope for or desire.
Will you get there? Will have what it takes to do it? I don’t know. Maybe you will, maybe you won’t. There’s no guarantees in life. Having a map of the city of Baghdad doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll make it to your desired destination. The map is not the territory. It doesn’t account for the traps, distractions and detours along the way. Yet they are very useful when you’re new in town or you’ve lost your way.
But there’s a missing step no one is talking about. That step when you have to love yourself enough to courageously go back to the starting point of whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish, and start all over again.
While Nike would like us to believe that all we have to do is “Just do it”, despite of how overwhelmed and exhausted we might become in the end, I wholeheartedly believe there’s a better way. A more loving way of going about it: “Just get started.”
Don’t get overwhelmed by trying to just do it, or getting it finished. Instead, just get started. Wherever you are along your journey, just take the next step. Do that one thing that will bring you back onto the Path. You know what that is.
I’ve been trying to write this article since yesterday, and along the way I’ve gotten started at least 12 times. A few phone calls, WhatsApp Messages, and things I forgot to do got in the way. Then, I really needed that cup of South American coffee so I could get started, for the 8th time.
Distractions are part of the journey. Embrace them, then come back to whatever it is you’re doing. Coming back and getting started, again and again, without beating yourself up or getting mad at yourself, is not only the key to your success but probably the most loving and kind thing you can do for yourself.
Just Get Started
IF you find your attention wandering in meditation, THEN bring it back by anchoring it on your breath or your heart beat.
IF you find your attention wandering during your workday, THEN bring it back to what needs to get started on again.
IF you find your attention wandering while writing your book, THEN bring it back by sitting in front of your computer one more time.
IF your attention wanders when preparing for that speech, that audition or presentation that is happening tomorrow, THEN bring it back by taking a deep breath, and start rehearsing it again.
Whenever your mind wanders bring it back. You may need to do that again and again, sometimes dozens of time in one morning. Don’t get mad at yourself, don’t beat yourself up, don’t make it a big deal. Just get started.
The difference between those who make it to step 7 and those who don’t, is in their ability to get started over and over again. Just getting started, even if you don’t feel like it, is the fastest way you’ll get to your desired destination.
The Path of the Heart is filled with many distractions. The best way to overcome them is by loving yourself enough to courageously keep coming back to it as many times as you have to.
Can you love yourself this much? Would you yourself this much? If so, when?
Just get started.
P.S. In two week’s time I will be starting a brand new course called Singles on the Path to Soulmate Love. I won’t be doing a traditional, drawn out launch where you get ten emails inviting you to sign up. If you’d like to be notified first please add your details to this list.