If you’re struggling to connect with others in deeper and more meaningful ways, then chances are you’re suffering from what is now known as a “Heart Wall”. In this article, I’ll discuss how this wall is created, and how it might be affecting you in your daily life.
To be human is to risk being hurt. Growing up in an imperfect, dysfunctional household like many of us do – even though I loved my parents and siblings and knew they loved me – I didn’t feel safe emotionally around them.
Anger and harsh words frequently and suddenly erupted over things that should have been inconsequential as the accidental closing of a door. Repeatedly I would find myself “walking on eggshells”, never really knowing when I or someone else in my family might be lashed out at or blamed for something.
Since very early, I learned to deal with uncomfortable situations such as these in many ways: sometimes I fought back, others I retreated, and more often than I’d like to admit, I hid. Somehow, at both a conscious and unconscious level I knew I had to protect my heart, that delicate aspect of myself in any way I could. And so I build a protective wall around my heart. In the book ‘The Emotion Code’, Dr. Bradley Nelson refers to this phenomenon as the “Heart-Wall”.
The Heart Wall: The Reason Why You’re Struggling to Connect with Others
According to Dr. Nelson, “the heart is the emotional and spiritual core of our being and when this core is repeatedly attacked or injured, your subconscious mind will form a kind of “energy wall” to protect your heart against further heartache, heartbreak or against further assault”. This wall can be experienced as a pressure or even pain around your heart, caused by the accumulation of trapped emotions, that were not allowed to be felt.
Consequences of having a Heart Wall
Having a Heart wall, can affect us primarily in two ways:
First, it blocks the heart’s energy from flowing throughout the rest of the body, making it more difficult for the body to heal itself, and causing physical symptoms such as pain, primarily in the neck, upper back, and shoulders, which can lead to heart disease, heart attacks, and blood pressure problems.
Second, a Heart Wall block us from fully opening our hearts to others, making it harder to give and receive love freely. This can lead to depression, abuse, broken relationships, and feelings numbness, isolation and disconnection from others.
Dissolving the Heart Wall as the Key to Connecting with Others
If you are longing to connect with others in deeper and more meaningful ways, then making the conscious decision to start dissolving this protective energy wall around your heart is the first step.
How do you do this?
In my next article, I’ll share with you the steps you’ll need to take to start dissolving your Heart Wall using a set of very simple Heart Intelligence practices I teach in my Living from the Heart Intensives and coaching programs.