Have you ever wondered why some people seem to easily manifest their heart’s desires, while others struggle to create the life and success they want? If you have, then you’re about to discover the reasons why.
Last month I challenged myself to coach a group of 20 powerful, heart-centered leaders. These were leaders from all walks all life, from CEO’s to social entrepreneurs, therapists, coaches, designers, and even a housewife starting a home-based business.
The key focus of our coaching sessions was to uncover the biggest blocks keeping these leaders from playing out more fully, creating an bigger impact, and having the success that their hearts truly desire.
Today I’d like to share with you what I discovered are the top 5 mistakes that most of these leaders were making. Mistakes that can be fatal if gone unnoticed. But if you address them and fix them, you’ll finally start having the success you’ve been longing for.
Let’s take a look at each one separately.
The 5 Lethal Mistakes Keeping Most Leaders from Achieving the Success they Truly Desire
Mistake #1: Lack of Specificity
Many of these leaders did not have a clear vision about what it was they they were trying to accomplish or succeed at. They ‘kind of’ knew what it was they wanted, but were not able to articulate their goals or intentions clearly and specifically, much less the motivation or reason behind their goals. How do you fix this? A good place to start is by asking yourself very specific, powerful questions such as: Who do you want to be in the world? What specifically do you want to manifest, create or accomplish? How will you grow as a result? Answering these questions more than clarity, will begin to give you a sense of direction, and only when you’re clear on the direction you’re headed, can you then use your heart’s intelligence and wisdom to help guide you.
Mistake #2: Lack of Focus
For the leaders that did have clarity about what they were trying to accomplish, the biggest block holding them back was they were not clear about what to focus on at any given time. As a result, they found themselves working on several projects at the same time, spreading themselves too thin, feeling stressed, overwhelmed and finding themselves always “busy, busy, busy” but not really getting any where. Sounds familiar? In my experience, the best way to get clear about what to focus on at any given time, is to ask yourself, What is that one project or task that if you just focus on during the next 90 days, will have the greatest impact? And when it comes to answering this question, your heart’s intuitive guidance can play a key role.
Mistake #3: Lack of Measurement
There’s a lot of truth to the old adage, “If it can’t be measured, it can’t be managed.” Having a system or way to track your progress can act as a powerful feedback mechanism to let you know you’re getting closer to achieving your results. So it’s important you ask yourself questions such as, How will you know that I’m getting closer to achieving my goal? Also, What is it I need to be measuring each week, each day, each month? But do keep in mind that not everything can be measured, specially the truly important stuff in life. Therefore, it’s equally important that you access your inner emotional guidance system, primarily governed by the intelligence of your heart, and ask yourself, How will I feel when I achieved my results? and, How am I feeling right now with respect to where I am in relationship to my goal? The answers you’ll receive in the form of feelings can often speed up the manifestation of your goals.
Mistake #4: Lack of Deadlines
Steve Chandler says that the difference between an intention and a commitment is that a commitment goes in your calendar. Powerful leaders know that if a decision is not made about when something needs to be realized or completed by, the likelihood that it will get done are almost null. In my experience, a deadline helps me create a sense of urgency, and also focus on what is ultimately a priority and most important at any given time. It helps focus your resources of time, energy, and even money, all in service of your goal. So, set up a deadline, one that is realistic and applicable to where you are right now.
Mistake #5: Lack of Accountability or Support
Both quantum and social research has now proven that when people are being observed, the quality of their performance changes. As a friend of mine likes to say, “people pedal faster when being watched.” Therefore it’s important that you set up some kind of accountability or support system to help you stay the course. Specially for those moments when you want to give up. Powerful leaders who have transformed our society had a particular community that they were acceptable to. People that looked up to them, observed them, and even followed their footsteps. So, create an accountability system by hiring a coach, or enrolling the support of a mentor, a friend, a peer or a group. You do this, and you’ll accelerate your results.
In summary, if you know in your heart that you came here to be a powerful leader, and to bring transformation and change in others, then handling these 5 lethal mistakes is key to your success. When you know specifically what it is you want to manifest and by when, what you need to be focusing on right now to make it happen, how to track your progress, and who to be accountable to, you’ll be well on your journey towards becoming the kind of leader you came here to be. The kind of a leader who ultimately is following The Path of their Heart.