We live in a world of shortcuts and hacks. People everywhere – including myself, constantly seek faster and more effective ways to get whatever it is we think we want.
From attracting wealth, building a website, writing a book, losing weight, to finding a partner, out there somewhere you’ll find the perfect hacking guide.
But when it comes to the most important things in life, like those relationships you value most, or the path that you are here to follow, there’s no hack.
Only your heart.
In the book My Journey with Maya by Tavis Smiley, Maya Angelou says,
We find our path by walking it. No matter how much you seek the answers to life from external sources, the truth you seek can only be found within you. You must walk your own path without aid of shortcuts. And you need to acknowledge that the journey toward the authentic you is more important than the destination.”
For all the advice you get from someone like me or anyone else, from the books you read or videos you watch about how to improve your life, and from all the seminars that you attend, at the end of the day, the only way to find your path to whatever it is you want is by embarking on a journey…
Want to start a new relationship? Ask someone out.
Want to improve an existing relationship? Start being more authentic.
Want to write a book? Write the first page.
Want to become a musician? Sign up for a music class.
Want to discover your life’s purpose? Start doing things purposefully.
You have to do the work, put in the hours, and fully immerse yourself. Doing the work means that you have to walk the walk; you have to walk the path if you’re going to find and discover what you are made of and what your most cherished relationships are truly all about.
There are no shortcuts.
As you do this, you’ll discover that the joy is in the journey itself. In the ups and downs. In the mistakes and the milestone you reach. In the relationships that challenge you the most and the ones that bring you the most joy. In the obstacles you encounter, and the creative solutions you find along the way.
The joy is in being gentle, loving and forgiving towards yourself each time you fall out of grace, lose momentum and feel unmotivated, lost or confused.
The joy is in looking back at all the miles you’ve traveled, how much you’ve learned, and the person you’re becoming along the way.
You find your path by walking it. And your heart is there to guide you, reminding you to get your ass back on the path each time you lose your way.
To support you along this journey, here’re eight clear signs that you’re not following your path.
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From my heart to yours.
Heart Intelligence Coach
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