Behind every vision or goal that you’re working to achieve, there will always be obstacles. As one of my mentors once said, “The Path is narrow and filled with many distractions.”
Some obstacles will be external, like money, other people, or circumstances beyond your control. But more often than not, your main obstacle will be internal. The biggest obstacle will almost always be YOU.
Whether it’s losing 20 kilograms, manifesting your soulmate, or doubling your yearly financial income, the path towards manifesting your vision or goal will inevitably be underpinned by three subtle obstacles you must continually face: the desire for instant gratification, the need for control, and the addiction to the next thing.
Becoming aware of these obstacles, right from the start, will have a profound impact on your ability to manifest your goal.
1) The Desire for Instant Gratification
In a world where experts from every field of endeavor eagerly advocate shortcuts or ‘hacks,’ acceleration seems to be the mantra of the day: “Do it faster and better! Get instant results TODAY!”
The problem with this approach is that it assumes that to every achievement there is ONE staircase that will take you to your goal when in reality no human being is wired the same nor desires the same thing. Everyone’s path is unique and very often, “one man’s medicine is another man’s poison.” What might be the right path for your best friend might be the worst path for you!
What’s important is that you first understand that you have a unique path to follow. And second, that it’s important for you to grow in your capacity to deal with feelings of impatience, anger, or frustration for not yet having what you want. This will help you avoid those distractions that might provide you with instant feelings of gratification but ultimately leave you feeling empty and confused.
2) The Need for Control
The second obstacle that often takes you off course is the insatiable need for control. From a very early age, we are taught to control our emotions, our environment, and our behaviors. For many, control is the ultimate tool for managing life’s uncertainty and achieving success.
The problem with this approach is that it is not sustainable. Trying to control every aspect of our life requires a tremendous amount of physical, mental and emotional energy. Especially when others are doing the same!
The solution to your need for control is being able to fully embrace your feelings of insecurity, uncertainty, and chaos, and then learning how to shifts towards feelings of inner peace, wonder, and ease. Each time you do this, you’re surrendering your lower need for control and opening yourself to the higher wisdom, guidance, and support available through your heart.
3) The Addiction to the Next-Thing
The third obstacle is the addiction to that next-thing, that seems more appealing, interesting and potent than the now-thing.
Though it’s very natural to want to move from one idea to the next, from one relationship to the next, or from one teacher to the next, the problem arises when you use the next-thing to avoid the emotional discomfort that comes from fully integrating the now-thing.
The next email, tweet, Facebook like, or WhatsApp notification instantly triggers the release of dopamine in our brains. And dopamine, needless to say, is a highly addictive substance. This is why for many of us, the next-thing is often an addiction!
Experiencing something on the surface, without diving deeply or immersing yourself in its subtle levels, might rob you of a great insight, awareness, or opportunities for expansion and growth.
The key to avoiding this obstacle is learning how to embrace those feelings of resistance and discomfort that naturally result from immersing yourself fully in the now-thing’s process.
The Path to Emotional Mastery
The three obstacles of the path are ultimately an expression of our inability to deal with emotions that many of us perceive as negative and uncomfortable. Emotions which many of us keep repressing, suppressing or avoiding.
What this mean is that the path towards the manifestation of our vision or goal is ultimately an inner path of emotional mastery. This, no doubt, is easier said than done.
But emotional mastery, more than the ability to ‘master’ or tame your emotions, is the capacity to activate an inner sense of heart coherence that changes the electromagnetic or life-force field surrounding you.
This attractor field is what draws towards you or determines the ideal conditions for the manifestation of your desires. This is what drives all of those synchronicities that paradoxically accelerate the manifestation process. With this expanded electromagnetic field also comes greater emotional, mental, and physical health and well-being.
An Invitation to Master your Emotions and Experience Greater Health and Wellbeing
If you would like to learn a proven method for mastering your emotions so that you can better deal with these three obstacles, I’d like to invite you to signup for my FREE 3-Part Training Series on ‘Emotional Mastery: How to stay calm and centered in a stressful and highly emotionally charged world.’
There’s no fee involved. All you need to do is show up with an open mind and an open heart. A separate set of notes will be provided for extra guidance and support. I hope you can join me!
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From my heart to yours.
Heart Intelligence Coach
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