Eight out of 10 people who visit my website each day, do so because they are interested in manifesting a relationship with their soulmate.
The reason Google points them my way is because three years ago I made a decision to open my heart to this special kind of love, and wrote a guide for myself in the form of an ebook which I later started sharing with others. It is called ‘How to Manifest your Soulmate’ and anyone can read it on my website.
One of the questions I most often get asked by people who join me on this journey of manifesting love is, “how do I keep from getting discouraged?”, and “what can I do when I’m feeling despondent, and no longer believe that there’s a special someone out there for me?”
In today’s article, I’d like to answer these questions. Even if you’re already in a loving relationship, you might find that what I’ll be sharing with you here will help you accelerate the process of manifesting anything you want in life.
So, whether you’re intending to manifest your soulmate, a new car, or an rewarding career, the principles of manifesting from the heart are the same!
Ready to get started? Let’s begin…
The #1 Thing you must Relentlessly Focus on if you want to Manifest your Soulmate
Suppose you’ve made the decision to drive from Brussels to London. And so you pack everything you need for the journey, and even visit Google Maps and download detailed driving instructions.
You’re now on the road, enjoying the first hour of the trip and the lovely Belgium countryside. Thoughts anticipating your arrival in London, visiting friends you love, and discovering new places make you feel alive and excited.
Three hours into the trip, you begin to feel bored, maybe even a little despondent. You’re no longer thinking about London. Instead, you find yourself thinking about your problems back at home, things left undone that you should be doing instead.
Has this ever happened to you?
Now, do you turn around and say, “screw London” and abort the trip?
Because you know you will eventually get to London. You made a commitment to get there, and even though you cannot see London yet, you know that if you just keep driving you will eventually get there.
In fact, as you start to get closer and closer to London, you’ll start noticing several signs along the way indicating you’re almost there!
The Journey to Soulmate Love
Similarly, the journey to soulmate love begins when you make the commitment to welcome this kind of love into your life, and you begin to take the necessary steps to get you there.
For example, you may follow the steps I outlined in my ‘How to Manifest your Soulmate’ article, which include: getting a clear vision, sending out a soul call, clearing the decks, healing the past, etc. Or you might simply start taking action by making room for this person in your life.
And so, you’re now driving towards Soulmate Land, with the only difference that you don’t know exactly when you are going to get there because it is now up to the Universe to engineer the perfect timing for you and your soulmate to come together.
During this time is very easy – and normal – to feel impatient, insecure, and even discouraged, specially when you don’t see any road signs saying ‘Soulmate Land 5 kilometers ahead.’
And so you ask yourself…
How can I tell that I’m getting closer to meeting my soulmate? Or…
What can I do to keep myself hopeful, and inspired along the journey?
The journey to Manifesting Love is primarily a _______ journey
The journey to Soulmate love is primarily a feeling journey. How you feel at any given time during the journey will always be an indication of whether you’re on the right track or not.
Why is this?
Basically, because the better you feel, the greater your vibration or heart magnetic power to attract, or draw towards yourself, the right events, circumstances, actions, people, and make those decisions, and take those actions that will help move you in the direction of your goals.
And the worst you feel, the lower the vibration or point of attraction you’ll create around yourself, often experienced and less creativity, poor decision-making, and lack of inspiration to take action.
So, the #1 thing you must relentless focus on if you want to manfiest your soulmate is on feeling good.
Does this sound selfish to you?
Good, because it is.
What I’m inviting you to do is to love yourself so much, that how you feel about anything becomes the most important thing you’re going to relentless focus on. Because when you feel good, you do good. And when you do good, you attract more good into your life. Which is the same as saying…
When you feel love, you do loving things, and when you do loving things you attract more love into your life. Remember, we live in a ‘return to sender’ universe!
Some Tips to Help you Pivot into Feeling Good
Here’s a few tips that I’ve found useful when I’ve felt discouraged, and down along my journey to manifesting love:
1. Make Peace with Where you Are now
Take time to appreciate where you are along your journey, and the new learnings and experiences that life is currently sending your way.
2. Celebrate the miles traveled
Take an inventory of how much you have grown, gained, and all you’ve learned since you began your journey. Take a moment to celebrate each step you’ve already taken!
3. Keep Focused on the Vision
Continue to visit the vision you have for your love life, and soulmate relationship as often as you can. Focus specially on how you feel when you connect with the vision of you and your soulmate spending time together.
4. Continue to Take Inspired Action
An inspired action is an action that comes from a place of joy. So do more of those things that make you feel good. Enjoy spending time with people you love, and engaging in activities that inspire and uplift you.
5. When in Doubt, take a Nap
Taking naps when you’re feeling down or frustrated re-sets your emotional system and allows your brain’s two hemispheres to communicate better. If you don’t feel like napping, you can also meditate listening to your heart, or practice HeartMath’s Quick Coherence Technique.
Finally, remember that the journey to Soulmate love is not a journey of finding somebody who is going to love you, make you happy, or give you something that you don’t already have, but rather it is a journey of growing yourself and your own capacity to love yourself first, before you can love others or welcome and recognise their love. What I call Soulmate Love, is ultimately a journey towards a higher form of relating to yourself and others.
And, as with any journey, you might as well enjoy it! 🙂
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