Personal development and spiritual growth is an ongoing, never-ending process. Each year brings new experiences for expanding ourselves and 2016 was no exception. But there’s something highly significant about this year most of us have not been aware of:
2016 marked the end of a nine-year numerology cycle which began in back in January 2008.
For many of us, this has been a year where doors closed, jobs were lost and relationships came abruptly to and end. A year where we were asked to confront our deepest childhood wounds and come to terms with the true source of our Divine discontent.
Over the past twelve months, I’ve coached hundreds of people from all walks of life and I’ve come to the conclusion this has been a year of completion. A year of wrapping up unfinished business, mastering important life lessons and tying up loose ends. All this, so that we can move into an emerging new version of ourselves.
But nothing new will happen in our lives until the necessary endings begin to take place. Because, as Debbie Ford once wrote, you can’t keep on “putting ice cream on poop.” And so it’s time to remove the dead plants, weeds and excess manure from our gardens and start creating space for new plants to grow and bloom.
It’s time to consciously complete this cycle before the new one can begin.
What does conscious completion mean?
Conscious completion means that you end something from a place of appreciation, compassion, forgiveness, humility, understanding, valor and love.
You do this by having a conscious conversation with yourself, either in writing, speaking or praying out loud, and acknowledging what you felt, what you learned and how much you have grown.
What makes this process ‘conscious’ is that it’s done while you’re aware of any thoughts, feelings, sensations, or desires arising from your heart. Without censoring or trying to control anything that shows up.
Why you want to consciously complete this cycle
By taking the time to consciously complete all the events, experiences, and relationships of the past 9 years, you will:
- Experience the peace of mind that comes from acknowledging and speaking your truth
- Feel a greater sense of alignment, flow and living in the now
- Boost your mental, emotional and physical energy
- Reduces stress and feelings of anxiety and overwhelm
- Improve the quality of your connection in all your relationships
- Open to new experiences, new relationships, and synchronistic events
- Neutralize the unconscious aspect of yourself holding you back from experiencing greater joy and love in your life
The difference between completing and finishing
When you’re finished with something, you’re likely to do it again when another opportunity shows up. But when you complete something you are DONE with it. Period. There’s no turning back or need to have the same experience or group of experiences again.
Think of it this way. When you’re finished doing the dishes, tomorrow there’ll be more dishes to wash up. But when you’re DONE doing the dishes, that’s when you buy yourself a dishwasher and never wash another dish in your life again.
How to consciously complete 2016
In the end, it doesn’t matter how you do your conscious completions as long as you just do it! For some people, it helps to write it down. For others, a verbal declaration might be enough. And for others, a ritual of burning something that represents what’s being released might also help.
What’s important is that you use this time to clear your mental, energetic, emotional and physical house before the new year arrives or the new cycle begins. Any time you invest in doing this cleanup will be time well spent!
To support you in this process, I’d like to guide you through the following 7 steps, inspired by James Mahu’s Six Virtues of the Heart.
(TO LISTEN TO THIS AS A GUIDED MEDITATION CLICK HERE)
Start by bringing the attention to the middle of your chest, and breathing deeply and rhythmically. Once centered in your heart, think back on all that has happened in your life since January 2008. Then, call forth each virtue of the heart as you follow the directions outlined in each step.
Take a moment to feel appreciation for all the people, major events and circumstances that life brought you during the past 9 years. Seeing things as they actually happened and not as you would have liked them to be. Appreciating the good, the bad and the ugly opens the door to acknowledging the many gifts that each one of these experiences brought you. You appreciate and learn so that you can move on.
Radiate compassion to yourself and all the people who were part of your life during this cycle. Regardless of what happened, see them as humans who are fighting their own battles. Just like you, they did what they did to avoid pain, discomfort, and suffering. They did what they did because, deep down, they believed their actions would make them happy. Because it was the best they could do at the time based on what they knew.
To forgive means to let go. So, forgive yourself for any past mistakes and anything you did to create pain, confusion or turmoil in your life and in the lives of others. Forgive also others for whatever they did to you. Give yourself permission to feel the pain, the sadness, the regret, and then forgive. Let your tears water the seeds of joy that tomorrow’s harvest shall bring.
The word humility, from the Latin humilitas, means earth or low to the ground. Each time you kneel down and touch the ground with your forehead, your heart rises above your head. This symbolizes the surrendering of your pride. So, let go of the need to be right, to be on the correct side of history. Instead, seek to be at ground level with all those people you’ve shared these 9 years with. People like you, who are learning what it means to be human and divine at the same time.
Open yourself to the wisdom and understanding your heart has to offer. Learn to see all these lessons as part of the journey your soul chose for you in this lifetime. Recognize that each person you’ve interacted with – even the ones that hurt you the most, came into your life to help you master those lessons.
What if you fell in love with someone who didn’t love you back so that you could learn how to fall in love with yourself?
What if that person who betrayed you came to show you how you’re betraying yourself by not speaking your truth, trusting yourself or honoring what you want?
What if every major crisis you faced and eventually got through was designed so that you could discover what it is you’re truly made and capable of?
To have valor means to have the strength or courage to say what you’re most afraid of saying. Face what you’re most afraid of facing. Ask for what you’re most afraid of asking. Hear what you’re most afraid of hearing. Do what you’re most afraid of doing.
So, ask yourself, “What do I need in order to feel complete with this cycle or this year of my life? What do I need to do? Who do I need to talk to? What must I release or embrace?”
Radiate the feeling of love to yourself and to everyone who has been part of your journey. Include your friends, family, co-workers, even strangers you met along the way. Send love to those people who touched you deeply, steered you in the direction of your dreams, and believed in you. Include anyone who wronged, betrayed or broke your heart. Especially, include all those who are no longer in your life but still hold a special place in your heart.
Acknowledge the many ways in which this new cycle is already manifesting in your life by sending love to all those people who are supporting you through this transition. To all those new opportunities that have already started showing up. The new skills and talents you’re now developing.
Then, send your love out into the future by directing it, through an imaginary timeline, to the person you know in your heart you’re destined to become. Trust that, in the timeless dimension of your heart, you are now being pulled towards this life, and will soon be meeting the people, events, and circumstances that will guide you there.
Finally, declare this cycle as perfectly done and complete; seeing this process as a profound act of self-respect, self-honoring, and self-love.
Consciously Create and Amazing 2017
Consciously completing this cycle is the first step. Consciously creating your future is the next. To help you create an amazing 2017 from a more real, loving and authentic place, here are three possible next steps you could take:
1) Read the following three articles, making sure to apply what you learn.
- How to Create a Powerful Vision that Will Inspire and Transform You
- How to Begin Any Project, Vision or Goal with The Heart in Mind
- How to Manifest your Deepest Desires Using The Power of the Heart
2) Enroll in my FREE 3-Part Course on Activating ‘The Law of the Heart’, available when you join The Academy for Applied Heart Intelligence. (Already a member? Access it here)
3) Sign up for my Manifesting from the Heart online course. For a small fee, you will learn the same reality manifestation framework that helped me re-invent myself when I lost everything 8 years ago. This is the same system that is helping my private clients manifest their ideal lifestyle.
Thank you for reading, for caring, and for being part of my life in 2016!
I look forward to being part of your 2017 and continuing to support your journey of expansion and growth.
From my heart to yours.
Heart Intelligence Coach
PS. For an audio version of this article, which includes the 7-Step Process in the form of a guided meditation, please visit this link.
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