Imagine you are standing in the supermarket line and a total stranger, someone you don’t even know, walks up to you and says out of the blue, “I’ve decided to have a relationship, and I’m going to have it with you.”
This person is someone who is completely inappropriate for you, someone you’re not interested in, feel connected to, much less want to share your most intimate aspects with.
That’s exactly what we do when we decide to have a relationship with a specific person, and they – for whatever reason – don’t.
This is what we do when we try to use ‘The Law of Attraction’, my ‘Soul Call’ guided meditation or any other process or technique to try to manipulate someone into loving, liking us, or marrying us.
This is what we do when a relationship has run its course and come to an end, but we keep trying to win them back so we can have them once again.
Each time I’ve done this (and believe me, I’ve done this so many times!) the end result has always been painful, frustrating, and confusing…
What’s wrong with me?
Why can’t this person see how amazing I am?
What did I do wrong?
Whenever I’ve tried to make another person fit into a pre-fabricated role that I’ve fantasized about them, and then experienced their indifference, lack of interest or response, what I’ve actually done is create an impossible situation that will inevitably prove to me what deep down inside I fear most: that I am unlovable.
Which is NOT true!
You could spend your life choosing people who CANNOT love you, so that you can prove to yourself how unlovable you are, and thus live a very painful and unhappy life, or you can choose people who CAN love you, who will prove over and over to you how lovable you already are.
The choice is yours.
If you’re looking for someone to love, choose someone who CAN and WANTS to love, honor, respect and appreciate you. Someone who not only makes you feel loved, but is ultimately a reflection of the love you have for yourself. This is where The Path to Soulmate Love begins.
Can you love yourself this much?
Can you love yourself enough to courageously LET GO of all that which is not loving, supporting and nurturing you, so that you can WELCOME the love your heart is truly longing for?
Can you love yourself enough to let go of the love you think you want, in order to welcome the love that’s been waiting for you?
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