Have you ever acted in-authentically and then got caught?
In this video, I share the full story, and what I learned from it. I also share a simple and powerful tool that can help you become at least 5% more authentic in every area of your life.
Be Yourself. Everyone else is taken.
– Oscar Wilde
What does it mean to be Authentic?
The word authenticity – as well as the word author – comes from the Latin augere, meaning to originate. Thus, being authentic is really the capacity to OWN the thoughts, feelings, sensations, desires, and actions that originate from within you. In other words, your own creation!
From a spiritual perspective, you are a UNIQUE, INDIVIDUALIZED, expression of the Divine, and every time you try you try to copy someone else, or simply adopt other people’s thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes as your own, you’re in essence, denying your birthright to be unique, and different.
A Simple Tool to Help you Become more Authentic
One of the most powerful awareness raising tools I’ve ever used is Nathaniel Branden’s sentence completion exercises. I use sentence completion in my Heart Intelligence Coaching practice, where clients complete sentences orally. Here’s a simplified version you can use to not only help you raise your own awareness about what being authentic means to you, but also how to increase your personal levels of authenticity in several areas of your life.
The essence of these exercises is to start with an incomplete sentence, a “sentence stem,” and as rapidly as possible, without pausing for reflection, write as many endings for that sentence as you can in two or three minutes. Do not worry if your endings are literally true or make sense or are “profound.” Write anything, but write something. Then, after you’re done, pause to reflect on what you wrote.
To me, being authentic means…
If I were 5% more authentic (with my wife, boss, myself, etc.) I would…
When doing these exercises, it is best to let go of any expectations about what will happen or what is “supposed” to happen. Simply do the exercises above, then go about your day’s activities, and merely notice any differences in how you feel or how you operate. If during the day, you feel inspired to take action on one of your sentence completions, then by all means take action, and notice how you feel afterwards. Try doing it early in the morning before your day begins, and don’t spend more than 10 minutes.
After doing this for a week, you’ll notice a new level of awareness around how you’re showing up for yourself in others, as it relates to authenticity, in different areas of your life.
Do you have a story of in-authenticity that you’d like to share with me? If so, what did you learn from it? What does it mean to be authentic? If you were 5% more authentic today with every person you meet, what would you do different? What would you stop doing?
Please feel free to share in the comments below.