Two years ago I lost my passion for coaching. I felt lost and didn’t know what to do. I was afraid to admit it to myself and my clients. What would they think of me? Would they fire me? Unsure of myself, I felt stuck.
When you lose your passion for what you love doing most, for what used to bring you great satisfaction and joy but no longer does, what do you do? Who do you turn to? How do you get your passion back? How do you get unstuck?
The following is a list of seven things I tried. They helped me reconnect with my deepest and truest passion, and come back home to my self a changed man. And they might do the same for you.
1) Connect with the people your passion has touched. The beneficiaries of your passion, those people whose lives your work has touched, healed or transformed. Your customers, colleagues, and team players. They’ll remind you why your passion matters and is needed in the world.
2) Spend time with those you love and love you in return. Friends who love you no matter what. Family members who accept you just as you are. Anyone whose love has not wane or will try to change you when you’re feeling down and out. Their unconditional love and acceptance will comfort your heart.
3) Take a deliberate, King/Queen-size break. Getting distance from something you’re stuck on will make your heart grow fonder and your mind sharper. Sometimes stepping or walking away from something you love – even when it feels like a failure – is exactly what you need to do. If time allows it, travel. Take long walks in nature and be sure to leave your phone behind.
4) Start something new. Sometimes, doing something new may re-ignite your passion. But don’t confuse novelty for passion. Let passion for what you most enjoy doing, and not novelty, be what guide your actions. Whatever you do, do it for the simple joy of doing it.
5) Revisit your motivation. Don’t take your initial motivation for granted. What got you started in the first place? Revisit your original vision. Write it down if you’ve forgotten it. Express it in a way anyone can understand it. Why did you start following this passion? Sometimes, remembering your WHY is all you need to re-kindle the flame of your passion.
6) Immerse yourself in the work of the masters. Whatever your field, specialty or area of passion, there’are others whose work intrigues and inspires yours. This is a wonderful thing. Spent time with them. Take it all in. Let your mind expand and your heart grow. Allow new possibilities to reveal themselves to you. Contemplate new ways of doing what you’ve always loved.
7) Create a new vision that will inspire and transform you. Ask yourself, “What’s the vision I’m holding deep within my heart, whose time has finally come? What is God, Spirit or Source asking of me in this new stage of my life? How am I being asked to grow, transform or be different? What people, habits, addictions, or beliefs must I let go of? Listen with your whole heart. Then, write down a new vision statement that both inspires you and scares you.
Whether it is you who is taking a break from your passion or your passion taking a break from you, remember that the deepest and truest passions of our hearts have a habit of always coming back to haunt us. So, let them!
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From my heart to yours.
Heart Intelligence Coach
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