If you’re single like me, but you know deep in your heart that you’d prefer to be in a fulfilling romantic relationship, today’s post might give you greater clarity when answering the question, “Why are you still single?”
“Why” doesn’t necessarily mean, “What the hell is wrong with you?, or “Oh, Shame, what happened?” or “Whose fault is it that you’re still single?” In this case “Why” simply refers to a much bigger question such as, “What is the purpose, intention or reason for you being single at this particular time in your life?”
When I asked myself this question, I came up with 7 good reasons why I’m still single. If you’re committed to Manifesting Soulmate Love, these might also be the same reasons why you are still single.
7 Reasons Why You Are Still Single
1. You know what you want
The time you are single it’s a wonderful opportunity to get clear about what it is you truly want, need and desire when it comes to a romantic partner, lover, or soulmate.
In the spirit of sharing my desires with you – and with the greater Universe for that matter, here’s what I really, REALLY, want:
I intend to manifest a soul mate relationship with an available, fun, loving man where we both share a STRONG chemistry, and a deep emotional and spiritual connection that allows us to love, understand, and accept each other as we are. This relationship if filled with positive, optimistic, authentic joyful thoughts, actions, attitudes, communications, and expressions of affection and love, that it brings out the best in both of us and inspires us to, together, make a much bigger difference in the world.
2. You’d rather be single than settle
To get what you really want, you must be willing to say “No” to what you don’t want. That sounds so simple, but incredibly hard to do, specially when my testosterone levels and libido begin to run high! I’m just not going to settle for anything less than soul mate love, period. Why settle for Nestle chocolate when I can have Lindt? It’s better to be single than to settle.
3. You’re still learning
To paraphrase Jim Rohn, “Life doesn’t give you what you want, need, or expect; Life gives you what you need to learn.” The big question is, “What is it that you need to learn in order to finally have that fulfilling loving relationship?” If you’re single and want a life partnership, what are the major life learnings or lessons that you must master BEFORE you can find your soul mate ? Here’s a few possibilities:
- Heal your emotional wounds (how about Coaching?)
- Learn new relationship skills (like heart-to-heart, authentic communication)
- Learn to accept responsibility for your life, needs and goals
- Identify and change disempowering habits, patterns, attitudes and beliefs
- Learn new life affirming habits, patterns, attitudes and beliefs.
- Learn to cultivate and channel your sexual energy. (remember, sexual energy is creative energy)
4. You’re getting your $hit together
Do you have all your ducks in a row? Is there an area of your life that still needs work, balancing, or fixing? (For example, career, finances, health, or raising children.) In my case, I’m very focused on building my coaching and consulting practice, and re-balancing my relationship with money and financial abundance. Plain and simply, I want to have lots of money and be able to travel and have fun and visit amazing places with my soul mate. What about you?
5. You’re keeping yourself ready and available for love
It’s been four years since I stopped ‘Recreational Dating’ and made a decision to date consciously, which funny enough, in my case meant stop dating all together. My reasoning is quiet simple: If I’m busy having fun with people who are not a good fit for me, how likely am I really to be available and ready for when I meet my soul mate? This has been the longest period of celibacy I’ve experience in my adult life!
6. You’re building a life YOU LOVE
Since 2012, I made a decision to build a life that I love, and that is in greater alignment with my life purpose and values. A life where I get to work with people I love and enjoy, and where I get to have a lot of fun while I express my creativity in service to the world. Are you building the life you want? What if in order to have the Love of your Life, you first need to have a Life that you Love?
7. You believe you can have it all
If my friends Audrey and Alfredo Garcia‘s, Kathryn and John Thompkins-Alice, and Virginia and Evelio Pacheco-Castaneda can have the type of relationship I long for – if it’s humanly possible – then I’m choosing to believe now that I too can have it all! I am worth it of great love and SO ARE YOU! Here’s one of my favorite affirmations of all time…
Today I am loving myself enough to go after 100% of what I really, REALLY want and is possible.”
My commitment to myself is to continue to hold the highest vision for the kind of relationship I want to manifest and attract in my life, not just today, but each day of my life. And, I invite you to do the same!
What about you? If you are single like me, “Why are you still single?” Feel free to share your thoughts or comments below.
PS. If you’re ready to clear your blocks to love, and get you ready to manifest your ideal relationship with your partner, lover, or soulmate consider registering for The Path to Soulmate Love.