Have you stopped to think about why you are not with your soulmate right now?
The Path to Soulmate Love is filled with many challenges. Setting the intention to attract, welcome and create the kind of romantic relationship your heart is longing for will often be met by an equal amount of resistance from that part of you that resists change.
Let’s face it, once you find your ideal partner, lover or soulmate – or they find you, your life will never be the same…
You’ll be risking being vulnerable, getting your heart broken or feelings hurt.
Your relationship with what you call ‘my freedom’, ‘my time’, ‘my space’ and ‘my things’ will change.
You’ll now have a front row witness to all those habits, behaviors and attitudes you’ve kept neatly hidden from the world.
And all of this can be scary to say the least. Specially to that part of you that is afraid of the big ‘unknown’ a new romantic relationship will inevitably come with.
To help you understand how this resistance might be affecting you, today I’d like to share with you what I believe are the 5 top reasons you are not with your soulmate now.
Becoming aware of them is the first step towards getting them handled and successfully moving toward the arms of your beloved.
5 Reasons you are not with your Soulmate
Author Anaïs Nin once wrote that finding love has “a little bit to do with destiny, fate, and what’s written in the stars”. If fate, destiny and the stars play a minor role, then what is it that ultimately determines your ability to manifest the love you want?
I believe it boils down to your willingness to courageously and wholeheartedly go after the kind of relationship you really want and believe is possible. In other words, it’s all about how you’re showing up for yourself and others, and the actions you’re taking from that space.
Considering this, here are what I believe the top 5 reasons you are not with your soulmate now:
1) You don’t REALLY want it
When it comes to wanting love, many of us have fallen in love with the idea of love and not love itself. We’ve idealized this thing we call love, making it something unrealistically perfect when in fact, loving relationships can be messy, painful, and risky.
Do you want real, messy, perfectly imperfect love? If so, then it might be time you re-commit to the love you want by taking 100% responsibility for your ability to create it.
2) You have a closed heart
Having a close heart – a heart that is filled with fear, anger and shame – doesn’t allow others in and can block you from welcoming new love.
Are you willing to re-open your heart to love and risk being vulnerable? Are you willing to tell the truth to yourself others about what you feel, want, need and long for?
3) You’re still hanging on to someone from the past
As long as you’re still attached to someone from the past and keep harboring fantasies that ‘someday things will work out with them’, you won’t have room for true love to come into your life.
So it might be time you finally release that person you’ve been attached to by admitting to yourself that if that person was your true soulmate you would be already together.
4) You believe there’s something wrong with you
Do you believe there’s something inherently wrong or flawed with you that will turn potential partners off?
Maybe it’s a physical thing like your current age, weight, skin condition, hair or a birthmark. Maybe it’s your home, financial status or job?
If so, it’s time you stop using that as an excuse for not having the love you want.
5) You don’t have a strategy or plan of action
It’s very unlikely that your soulmate will come knocking at your door and ask you to get married. Meeting new people requires getting into the natural flow of life, and having a plan of action to get you ‘out into the world’ where you’re more likely to joyfully connect with potential candidates.
Can you stop resisting what you know you need to be doing to meet and connect with new people?
What you can do about it
If you’ve been feeling insecure about your ability to manifest your soulmate, maybe it’s time for you to:
- Renew your commitment to creating a soulmate level relationship,
- Open your heart to welcoming new love,
- Release the past and anyone you’re still attached to,
- Let go of all excuses and beliefs about why you can’t have the love you want, and
- Create a plan of action to get you out into the flow of life where you’re more likely to meet your soulmate.
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