If you’re one so many heart-centered leaders who struggle to find Soulmate love with a romantic partner or lover, in this article I’m going to show you exactly what it is you’re doing wrong. Fix one of these common mistakes heart centered leaders make when looking for soulmate love, and you might just find yourself in the arms of your beloved sooner than you ever expected.
Ignore what I’m about to share, and you might just end up at the end of a long line of amazing single people who have lost hope of finding true love, after wasting unnecessary time and energy applying law of attraction techniques that don’t work hoping to meet their soulmate ‘someday’.
But before I tell you what these seven common mistakes are, let me first remind you of two key ideas I shared in much more detail in my previous article, 12 Signs you’re not on the Path to Soulmate Love.
Here they are…
Idea #1: The Path to Soulmate Love is the journey you embark on when you make the decision to love, honor and appreciate yourself enough to stop settling for less than you deserve or believe is possible, and courageously attract, welcome, create and enjoy the kind of relationship your heart has been longing for.
Idea #2: The person you’ll call your soulmate is, in essence, someone who is the best possible fit for you in this lifetime, the perfect recipient of the love you long to share, and represents a higher level of relating to yourself, others and the world.
Embracing these two key ideas will give you a context for better understanding what I’m about to share, and help you identify which of these mistakes you’re currently making so that you can avoid them.
7 Reasons Why Heart Centered Leaders Struggle to Find Soulmate Love
1) Heart Centered Leaders are often too busy following their hearts and changing the world that they neglect to create space in their lives for the deeper intimacy of romantic love.
The Path of the Heart is a journey of fulfilling your life’s purpose, and sharing your creative gifts in service to others. Along the way, it’s easy to get caught in the busyness of meetings, activities and endless to-do lists that will take you there, neglecting to create space for someone special in your life to share the journey with. Be sure to create space each week to connect deeply with people you love, assigning top priority to those relationships that nurture and support you.
2) Heart Centered Leaders live in a world of visions and possibilities where they are consciously creating their future, often forgetting to love and accept themselves where they are right now along their journey.
Because Heart Centered Leaders are being driven or pulled by a vision which exists in the future but has not yet been manifested, it’s very easy to disconnect from the present moment and the person you are being right now. Learn to love and accept yourself where you are today along your journey by loving all those aspects within yourself that are imperfect or are still a work in process. Treat yourself as if you are your own Soulmate first, so that you can better recognize him/her when they show up in your life.
3) Heart Centered Leaders easily fall in love with the potential of a relationship, rather than the actual person in front of them.
Because the heart is the true center of inner vision, Heart Centered Leaders can easily connect and identify with the potential of a relationship or a person they are in love with, and fall in love with the potential instead of with the actual person. It’s important you love and accept the person you’re with for who they are right now, and not for who you know they could be. That’s the essence of what true love is ultimately all about.
4) Heart Centered Leaders feel their emotions more deeply and therefore struggle more being vulnerable, or appearing insecure or lost.
Following The Path of the Heart means you get to live more, be more, and feel more. Therefore, Heart Centered Leaders feel more deeply and intensively. Welcoming a new person into your life means going through the process of making yourself vulnerable as many of your insecurities begin to surface. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is that comes up and even share what you’re feeling with the person you’re with. Remember that when it comes to emotions, you’ve got to name them to tame them.
5) Heart Centered Leaders struggle to ask for what they truly want, putting their needs, wants and desires last in order to be loved.
Because Heart Centered Leaders are in essence servant leaders, it’s very easy for them to put other people’s needs, desires and wants first instead of ours. The result is you end up feeling neglected, and even resentful. Be sure to not only honor, but also share with others what it is you truly want, hope for, need or desire. Let go of the need to always be in control by being the giver, and open up to receive by asking for what you really want.
6) Heart Centered Leaders have a hard time saying ‘NO’ because they are afraid to be rejected or disliked.
As Heart Centered Leaders, we want to love and support all the people in our lives. The result of this is we get to be loved, admired, and liked by others for always being there for them. But be careful you’ve not become a ‘people pleaser’ by saying yes when you know deep in your heart the answer is NO. Honor, love and appreciate yourself first, by checking with your self before making commitments with others. Be willing to say no to others, even if it means making others feel angry, rejected or disliked.
7) Heart Centered Leaders often forget that a soulmate is not a person, but a type of relationship you create with another person who is the best possible fit for you.
Though you’ll end calling him or her ‘my soulmate’, the truth is that a soulmate is not a specific person but a type of relationship you choose to create with another person who is the best possible fit for you in this lifetime. In essence, it is a romantic relationship with a strong spiritual basis. Therefore, choose to be deliberate and intentional when choosing to create such relationship and the person you choose to create it with.
In summary, here’s a few guidelines that will help you avoid these 7 common mistakes that keep most Heart Centered Leaders from finding soulmate love:
- Create plenty of space for love and intimacy in your life
- Love and accept yourself where and how you are today
- Love and accept any potential partner where they are in life right now
- Give yourself permission to be vulnerable, authentic and real with anyone you meet
- Ask for what you truly want, need, hope or desire then open up to receive it
- Honor yourself by saying NO to what doesn’t feel right or is not a good fit
- Set out to create a soulmate relationship, instead of finding one
By following the guidelines, you’ll be well on your way towards welcoming the kind of romantic relationship your heart and soul has been longing for. As Vera Nazarian, author of The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration said, “Don’t look for a soul mate. Make one.”
Instead of looking outside of yourself for your soulmate, become the most loving and lovable version of yourself, and from that place invite another amazing loving and lovable person to join you along the The Path to Soulmate Love.
Your lives will never be the same after that!
Have an amazing week ahead.