When I think about the happiest people I know, the first thing I’ve noticed about them is that they are not happy all the time. It seems like a paradox doesn’t it?
These people, rather than trying to be happy, instead focus on living life fully. They allow themselves to feel deeply and welcome each new experience that life throws at them with a sense of appreciation and wonder…
I wonder what the lesson in this experience is?
I wonder what I can do to regain my balance?
I wonder what it will take to overcome this?
Like moths to a flame, people are irresistibly drawn to them not because they are happy all of the time, but because they are full of life.
I’m often wary when I meet someone who is happy all of the time. It is as if I traveled to a country where it was always daylight. But I’m irresistibly drawn to people who live life fully and who feel deeply.
What if the key to happiness is in letting go of the need to be happy, and instead living life fully?
What if, instead of struggling to find happiness in another person or in some future event, you grew it right under your feet?
What if happiness was not only a choice but the result of choosing to consciously and consistently live fully and experience life from a place of appreciation and wonder?
Research at The Institute of HeartMath has found that five minutes of appreciation strengthens your immune system for up to six hours, allowing you to make better decisions and bounce back from temporary setbacks.
Similarly, they’ve found that five minutes of feeling angry weakens and suppresses your immune system for up to six hours, leading you to make poor decisions and delaying your ability to bounce back.
Rather than struggling to find happiness like trying to catch a rare butterfly that keeps eluding you, how about growing a lush garden of appreciation and wonder that irresistibly draws the happiest butterflies to it?
To help you take the next step, here’s a guided meditation that might help.
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From my heart to yours.
Heart Intelligence Coach
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